How to Save My
If My Relationship is Ready to BLOW UP?
3 THINGS You Need to Do Right Now
to Stop the Affair, & Get Your Spouse Back
Naturally all couples hope that it never gets to this point where the infidelity has happened. The ideal would be to have the communication in the marriage open that this could be stopped or dealt with before it gets to this point. Once infidelity has taken place there is no turning back and couples need to look at restoration, if that’s possible.
Can Infidelity Ever Be Forgiven??
This is a difficult question to answer. This will not be easy and can be overcome. The infidelity needs to be treated as a warning sign, as a message that repairs are needed in the marriage.
There are a few things that need to be done before one even tries to repair the marriage. The one having the affair needs to openly admit this to themselves as well as their spouse. The affair needs to be brought out into the open right away.
Both parties need to be responsible for what happened. Quite often there is the denial that happens afterwards and there can be no repairing something no one will admit happened.
Secondly both parties need to agree they want to save their marriage. For if both parties are not willing to commit themselves to this then it won’t be able to be repaired . Once you have both agreed to want to repair then you can get started.
Save My Marriage Today
What You Need to Know About Surviving A Marital Affair & Saving A Marriage
One of the keys to getting through this is wanting to do it together and both agreeing to do it. Now the changes can be made. Starting by looking at the infidelity as a warning sign is a great place to start. Looking at it as a need to make some lifestyle changes in ones marriage so this doesn’t happen again.
Generally an affair doesn’t just happen, there are usually things underlying this action. So if the underlying, causing issues are dealt with then chances are great an affair will not take place.
A GREAT BOOK authored by Dr Lee H. Baucom is “Save the Marriage”. Dr Baucom feels all too often and way too easily people use divorce as a way of treating any problems in their marriage. He strongly feels that a divorce should be the last resort and that is only after everything else has been exhausted.
The sanctity of marriage is something that is not taken very seriously in many cases. More effort should be put into saving a marriage rather than just escaping it. Marriage, a joyous union of two people in love should be attempted to be saved at all costs.
How to save a marriage? There are some that are able to do this on their own without any outside help at all. This is not common though as quite often it’s crucial to have that unbiased outsider opinion. Seeking the help of a marriage counselor, or support group is generally the best step to take. This will quite often give them clearer picture of the situation as well. There are someone who is not prejudiced to the situation and will be able to listen to both sides fairly. This gives the couple the freedom to express exactly what they are feeling.
It is comforting to know that if you and your spouse have gotten to this point then there is a consensus that the marriage wants to be saved. That much of the foundation that the marriage started on is still there. As much as the two people need to look at them when wanting to repair this marriage they also need to look at everyone else affected. Sadly the people that are usually hurt the most by ones infidelity are the children of the marriage. It has been shown over and over that the children are the ones that suffer more before, during and after a divorce.
Learning from the Infidelity & Moving on..
When a couple is at the start of this journey this point seems unreachable. Yet for those that jointly participate in the healing have expressed many times that they have learned so much from the infidelity.
The main thing most have felt they have learned is that they now are open and aware to changes in their relationship. They have learned to be open and more communicative with their partner. They have found they are more aware of the signs, symptoms and triggers that can possibly happen. They also express more of an appreciation for their spouse and wanting to make things good.
In conversation with many of the couples it was found that the majority of ones that committed the infidelity did not do it for lack of love for their spouse, but for lack of something they felt missing in their marriage. They also agreed if they were just able at that time to communicate openly to their spouse about what they were feeling the infidelity may never have happened. The majority also felt that if all was communicated and good in the marriage there is no need to go elsewhere. Why go somewhere else when its right where you are.
Your Marriage Can Be Saved!
Dr Baucom, author of Save The Marriage make a lot of valuable points. Helping to repair marriages, providing books and self help books to assist people in helping themselves. It’s encouraging to see someone that has taken their life experience and wants to use that to assist others.
It’s heartwarming today to see someone who feels so strongly in the sanctity of marriage and believes at almost all costs trying to save them. If infidelity or the threat of a divorce has entered your life you may want to do some reading.
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